February 28, 2012 § 18 Comments
So I did a new photoshoot, with some really striking and different looks. I’ll be posting them up here bit by bit. Let me know what you think.
February 14, 2012 § 6 Comments
People often think I’m gay.
Well, I say ‘people’. Narrow-minded, homo-nervous men, usually. Gay people almost never think I’m gay. I am very straight acting, and gay men tend to fucking GO FOR IT when then cross-dress in a way I don’t. Like Sphirex:
Heterosexuality is the centre of my trans-identity. Not that I identify with straight men, but that I fucking adore women. My affection for females is rooted in my very early friendships with my neighbours (ALL the kids on my street were girls) and the all-female cast of adult characters my early years consisted of (my older brothers were too old to take an interest in me and my dad worked extremely long hours).
It remains the case that the more I cross dress the more attention I get from the ladies. The way I can converse with women through the common interest of clothes and make-up is amazing. Even the straightest women tend to come on board when I tell them their shoes are from Aldo, and I’ve been after a pair of those for ages.
And yet here I come across a feminist issue. The fact that I often relate to women through the medium of the cliches that are said about them, “what’s with the women and the shoes?” means I sometimes have a skewed perspective on feminist problems. I love the artificial, constructed aspects of femininity. The current trend for very high heels and false eyelashes speaks to a part of my sexuality that’s somewhat at odds with my politics.
But the irony that cross dressing is seen as a gay thing is continually funny to me, when I consider the different ways men and women relate to me when I’m dressed feminine.
If you take an interest in girls’ things they like you more. I learned this through the medium of Barbie, and it’s never quite left me.
Nice boots, by the way.